When we are enough, it means we are perfectly whole and complete as we are, we have everything we need, and we don’t have to strive at becoming more loved, more accepted, more worthy, or more validated in life – because we’re already all of those things. When we’re enough, it means we can turn up in life and live the life we’re meant to live, free from the opinions or pressures of others. It means we can ‘be’ our unique self in life.
At What Point Do We Start To Believe We Are Not Enough?
Our perceptions are based on how we interpret our sensations. We are sensory beings, we absorb our environment through our senses, and our brain creates a collage of what the present moment looks like, sounds like, feels like, smells like, and tastes like. Then we think and our thinking will be based on our expectations. These expectations, also known as prior beliefs, help us make sense of what we perceive in the present experience but will be based on similar past experiences.
We spend the first seven years of our life being programmed. And 95% of the results in our life come from that programming of the subconscious. As babies, we’re innocent and can be seen as a blank slate full of potential. As toddlers, we are confident enough to want to test the boundaries. As children, we’re like sponges wanting to learn and absorb as much information as possible. As teenagers, we want to challenge the world in order to find what makes us tick. Then as adults, we either reap the rewards or deal with the consequences.
Some of us may have been brought up in a loving, caring and nurturing home environment where we developed the belief that the world is a relatively safe place. Therefore it is safe for us to explore the world around us. Others may have experienced negative, stressful, or even abusive events in childhood that lead to the belief that the world is a distrustful and scary place, causing withdrawal and shut down of the heart. Lee Raby, a psychologist and postdoctoral researcher at the University of Delaware, tells us that a parents’ role in the early years of childhood is to communicate with their child and let them know, ‘I’m here for you when you’re upset and when you need me. And when you don’t need me, I’m your cheerleader’.
According to Jay Belsky, a professor of human development at the University of California, human development is complicated. Due to variations in our psychological makeup, some of us are more sensitive to environmental factors than others. But that doesn’t mean we can’t recover from bad childhood experiences. Belsky says, ‘There’s new evidence suggesting that the very kids who succumb under bad conditions are the ones who really flourish under good ones.’
We know from neuroscience that we can rewire the chemistry in our body by changing our perspectives. When we change our perspective, we find new ways to interpret our experiences in life. As a result, we may find greater awareness and discover that we now see an opportunity for greater learning and growth where we once saw problems. Our enoughness at two years of age will not meet the enoughness requirements when we’re nine years of age, and so on. Therefore it’s important that we are constantly growing, changing and evolving.
Bite-Sized Pieces of Enoughness
While some of us may be fully on board with the concept of being enough, others may struggle with the idea, especially when life tells us differently. In addition, some of us may feel overwhelmed at the prospect of being enough and may believe that we don’t have what it takes to turn up and live the life we’re meant to live, so it helps if we can break our ‘enoughness’ down into bite-sized pieces. And affirmations are a great way to help us do this.
Affirmations are short, simple yet powerful sentences aimed to affect the conscious and the subconscious mind to help alter our thinking, patterns, habits, and behaviour. Affirmations are also emotional support through change.
It helps if we can engage all of our senses (sight, sound, feel, taste and smell) when stating our affirmations, as this helps anchor and lock the affirmation deeper into our subconscious mind.
Components Of Life And Living
We are born with the potential to be who we are meant to be in this life. When we’re equipped with the inner knowledge that Astrology offers us, we’re better able to interpret the world around us. In Astrology, our wholeness can be broken down into 12 different units. Each unit is referred to as a house. Each house represents a component of life, from health to wealth to relationships and everything else in between.
The 12 components are as follows:
- 1st house is our House of Self and represents our ego. This house relates to our self-image and governs what we look like and how we present to the world. This relates to first impressions.
- 2nd house is our House of Things. It governs our potential to make money and how we relate to it. It relates to our self-esteem and values in life.
- 3rd house is our House of Expression. This governs our attitude, our intellect and our communication with others.
- 4th house is our House of Home. This house governs our home, our roots, our ancestors, our past. It also represents how safe and secure we feel in the world.
- 5th house is our House of Playfulness. This house governs our creativity and pleasure in life. It also governs our ability to have fun.
- 6th house is our House of Routine. This house governs our physical health, daily habits, general well-being, and service to others.
- 7th house is our House of Relationships. This house governs our one-to-one relationships and partnerships, covering everything from marriage contracts to business deals.
- 8th house is our House of Death & Rebirth. This house governs how we feel about sex, inheritance, debt and also death and rebirth.
- 9th house is our House of Thinking. This house governs our ability to travel in our mind. It’s our big ideas, our ethics and our vision. It’s also our belief systems, religion and philosophy.
- 10th house is our House of Career. This house governs where we’d like to be recognised for our achievements. It’s also our house of purpose and public image.
- 11th house is our House of Social Connections. This house governs our evolution, our humanitarian concerns. It’s the house of friends and networks.
- 12th house is our House of The Subconscious & Secrets. This house governs our mental and spiritual health. This is also the house of karma.
We know from neuroscience that the cells in our body react to everything our mind says. And, according to Astrology, everything starts and ends with our birth chart as it helps illuminate aspects of our life, both conscious and unconscious, helping us achieve phycological balance and greater control in managing our tendencies. By using self-affirming words to support us in the 12 components of our lives, we’re building positive beliefs that help support us in being enough. As a result, our coping mechanisms and false beliefs no longer dictate who we become. Instead, it’s our true authentic self that shines through with greater purpose and meaning in life supported in the belief that I AM enough.